5 Ingredients of a Get-Skinny Supper


I’m crazy about fall foods. I love apples and squash and most of all I love… chili. I honestly could eat it every day. No exaggeration. In my book, EatingWell’s Zesty Wheat Berry-Black Bean Chili, with a green salad on the side, is not only a perfectly wholesome, yummy dinner—it’s an ideal get-skinny supper because it contains 5 ingredients that research shows help with weight loss. Here are the 5 key ingredients of my favorite get skinny supper.

Beans, Beans…

They’re good for your heart. They’re also good for keeping you feeling full and—according to recent research—blasting belly fat. The secret? Soluble fiber. Researchers at Wake Forest Medical Center reported that for every 10-gram increase in soluble fiber per day, visceral fat (the more dangerous kind deep in your belly, surrounding your organs) dropped by 3.7 percent over five years. (Other sources of soluble fiber include oats, barley, apples, okra, citrus.)

2. Chile Pepper

Research suggests that capsaicin, the compound that gives fresh chiles, and spices including cayenne and chipotle, their kick can boost metabolic burn. In other words, you can torch more   with spicy recipes (including chili)—so try a few new ones.

3. Salad Greens

Starting with a salad may prevent you from overdoing high-calorie fare later. In fact, research out of Penn State shows that eating a first-course salad can reduce overall calorie intake at a meal by up to 12 percent.

4. Vinegar

5. Whole Grains

Whole grains are also rich in fiber (soluble and insoluble!) so adding things like wheat berries or barley to your chili gives it even more staying power

Rad Romance: Party Shoes & Purses Just Meant For Each Other

You had your own friends before you met your man. So did he. How about now? Have those friendships stayed intact or are they dwindling? Have these other friendships died out completely? Romantic relationships tend to take center stage, but how much is too much?

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Boys will be boys, and you’re not a boy

No matter how long you’ve been together, you’re still going to need a break from the opposite sex. He needs this, too (some men more than others). Make sure he gets time with the dudes — encourage him to take it, if necessary — and do the same for yourself. Schedule your girls’ and guys’ nights for the same evening or weekend day to optimize your time. You’ll both return to the relationship refreshed, and your friends won’t feel discarded.

Don’t make everything a date

Invite your single and coupled up friends with you to the movies, drinks or dinner. Make the effort to keep your activities as open as possible. You’ll still have time to be exclusive if you’re prioritizing a one-on-one date night each week. If you’re in a place where you feel like you don’t have time to see other friends, this is a great remedy.

Make the time

If you’re super busy and really want to see a particular friend, schedule the time. People in relationships often have the bad habit of just “hanging out” with their significant other because it takes less effort. Don’t let laziness make your other friends feel forgotten. Even if you invite them to visit while you shop for groceries or go for a jog after work, it’s a step in the right direction.


It takes a village

You two lovebirds can’t solve all your problems in a vacuum. Surround yourself with a good community. As fun and exclusive as it can feel to take lots of nights in with just the two of you, this isn’t sustainable. When you have a bad fight, miscommunications or just need a break from each other, community is essential. And not just for the hard times. Community strengthens the two of you as you learn from others around you. And the world still very much needs both of you, even after you’ve found each other.

7 Stress Busters: Soothing Foods and Calming Scents

Learn how to cope with stress by arming yourself with these stress-busting scents and soothing foods.

If you’re feeling stressed, take heart: what you eat and smell may help you de-stress. “The part of the brain that processes odors is very close to the [part that houses] emotions and memories,” explains Pamela Dalton, Ph.D., M.P.H., a researcher at the Monell Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia. So when you sniff something you like, you tend to breathe more deeply, your blood pressure lowers and your heart rate slows—all of which relax you. Eating some foods may help relax you too. So arm yourself with these soothing scents and tasty foods to cope when you are stressed.

  1. Sniff an Apple
  2. Sip on Tea
  3. Inhale Lavender
  4. Cut Into a Coconut
  5. Pack Some Peppermint
  6. Nibble on Chocolate
  7. Satisfy a Carb Craving

Create a memory box for the upcoming school year

A school memory box is a safe place to keep your child’s artwork, accomplishments and memories throughout each school year. There are many ways to make a memory box — from an easy organized space to a more involved DIY project, which is perfect for older kids and parents to make together.

memory box for the upcoming school year

This easy family tradition can be done yearly and becomes an organizational tool for you and your child to keep prized possessions from his childhood. Possessions you can both reflect back on as the year passes and as your child gets older.

Tip:If a school project is too large for the memory box, take a picture of the project, write the name of the project and the date on the back of the photo (with a photo-safe pen) and place the picture inside your child’s memory box. This can also be done with photographs from school events, recitals and plays. Read more at How to make a school memory box

Whatever You Do In 2014, Do NOT Try These Trends

Created in collaboration with Striking Beauties, the nation’s first 24-hour boxing gym designed exclusively for women, Boxing Boot Camp ($40, available at Kohl’s, Modell’s and Dick’s in fall 2012) is a maximized interval training workout that includes a cardio-revving jump-rope warmup and 12 rounds of boxing.

Boxing Boot Camp comes with a 6-pound medicine ball, speed rope, two weighted gloves ergonomically designed for women, a DVD with a 28-minute workout (12 two-minute rounds), a bonus abs workout and a complete instructional section that teaches you how to harness the power of your own body through punches and combinations.

SheKnows got a personal preview of the intense workout with USA boxing coach Jaime “The Hurricane” Clampitt, a four-time world champion boxer who co-created and appears in the Boxing Boot Camp video. In 2009, Clampitt met Striking Beauties owner Dena Paolino, and the women partnered to create an authentic boxing program for women at all fitness levels. Clampitt also created an amateur boxing program at Striking Beauties, located outside of Boston, that has already produced several national champions. We asked Clampitt, who’s so fit she performed the boxing demo while pregnant with her second child, for a few boxing tips for beginners.

SheKnows: How can women get over feeling intimidated, and what’s the best way for a woman who has never boxed before to get started?

Jaime Clampitt: I feel this [Boxing Boot Camp] video will provide women with a great way to get started in the sport of boxing. The video is not only an amazing workout, but it also focuses on proper technique. Having the technique and the conditioning from the video will give women the confidence to go to a boxing gym if that’s something they would like to try.

SheKnows: How often should you use the Empower Boxing Boot Camp video or take a boxing class in order to see toning and weight loss results?

Jaime Clampitt: For most women, I would have them start with two to three times a week. I think that this is a great way to begin your training regimen so you allow your body to rest between sessions, but it will still give you weight loss and toning results. As they get stronger I would have them increase their workouts up to six days a week. The great thing about boxing is that the same workout can always get harder. As your technique gets better and your stamina builds, you can move faster, punch faster and punch harder. In the video we box two-minute rounds with 30-second and one-minute intervals so you can increase your punch output as you build your stamina.

SheKnows: What is the biggest benefit of boxing as a form of exercise for women?

Jaime Clampitt: Boxing is one of the best all-around workouts. This is a huge benefit because you work every muscle in your body, and boxing also provides an aerobic and anaerobic workout. I think it’s a great way for busy women to condition their whole body in one workout.

SheKnows: What is the most common feedback you hear from women who come to Striking Beauties?

Jaime Clampitt: The most common feedback is that they really feel empowered. Our members leave the gym with a sense of accomplishment after each challenging class. It’s amazing as a trainer to not only see their bodies change, but to see their confidence build.

Why does your college kid act that way?

Keep reading for why your college-aged kid is testing the limits and why you may need to change your frame of mind.

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Remember what it felt like to reach your 18th birthday, or the first time you lived or traveled on your own? To a teenager who has grown up with rules, curfews and obligations to parents, that feeling of inching closer to grown-up status is indescribable. We can remember these feelings from our own teen years, but our view as a parent is completely different.

Who is this kid?

Parents may be shocked when their previously easy-going teen starts acting like a toddler again. Your teen’s behaviour may swing from moodiness and irritability back to being pleasant and mature. For parents who are expecting a young adult, the apparent regression can be unsettling.

“Although teens always need their parents — and even though that need may change over time — as teens get older, they may experience an inner struggle with it,” says Nancy Lamberty, LCSW-R and staff social worker in the Binghamton University Counseling Center. “On one hand, they want and/or need their parents’ involvement, advice and guidance but on the other hand, they want to be independent and are all too eager to cultivate a sense of not needing anyone.”… readmore.

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Olive Recipes

Olives come in all shapes and sizes. Green, purple, black; pitted, stuffed, spiced; Kalamata, Nicoise, Sicilian; they all have a unique and fragrant flavor profile. And while they’re very tasty and satisfying on their own — and even more so as a snack alongside an evening cocktail — they’re also well suited for taking your favorite dishes up a notch.

Planning on making fish for dinner? Dress it up with an olive and mint relish. In the mood for pasta? With just some olives and fresh herbs, dinner is served. Tired of the same old white rice on your dining table? Add olives and you won’t be able to get enough. Being that they’re packed-full of briny goodness, it’s in your best interest to keep some stocked in your fridge (or cupboard) at all times. You never know when they’ll come to your rescue and make your ordinary meal unforgettable.

With all the varieties to choose from, sometimes it’s difficult to know which to choose. For a helpful guide outlining the difference between these little fruits, check out Whole Foods’ helpful site.

How to network within your own neighborhood

Why networking strengthens your neighborhood

Just like social networking can strengthen a company, networking — both online and in person — can strengthen the people around you. There’s some truth to the saying “it takes a village” and, in modern times, that village is typically your neighborhood. It’s more than borrowing a cup of sugar or hiring a babysitter, neighborhood networking promotes healthy relationships, encourages safe social situations and provides services and advice to other families in need of some help.

Neighborhood networking made easy

One way to network with the people around you is through the ever-growing world of social media. With many connection and networking sites at our fingertips, people can easily inquire about schools, find or form mommy groups and support groups, raise money for fundraisers, swap information, share homeowner’s updates, organize a school carpool and form a neighborhood watch program.

Social networking neighborhood sites like Nextdoor.com allow neighbors to exchange information and build a community in a safe and secure way. The easy-to-use platform confirms members by address and allows private, secured communication through the site, email or by text message. With sites like Nextdoor, neighbors can meet, mingle and share advice and services, which makes life easier and more manageable.

Meet your neighbors

Busy lives call for busy actions and when it’s within the comforts of your own neighborhood, a simple and polite wave through the glass of a car window suffices — most of the time. Whether you’re leaving late, focused on the workday ahead or coming home to spend time with your family, some busy neighbors save time by waving instead of stopping for an introduction or to chitchat about life. But when you’ve lived in a neighborhood for years and years and you find yourself doing the same simple actions, there comes a time when an introduction or conversation is the long overdue and polite thing to do.

Tips on how to introduce yourself to your neighbors:

  • Plan a neighborhood block party and make sure the invitation suggests all are welcome.
  • Set up an email list and start exchanging email contacts through the neighbors you do know.
  • If a neighbor has a new baby, bring over a frozen dinner or card congratulating them on the new arrival. Life-changing events, like a birth, tend to bring people together — even neighbors.
  • Play with your kids in the front yard on the weekends and after work. Most neighbors will be out walking their dogs, getting some fresh air or playing with their kids after a long day at work or on the weekends when schedules are less hectic.
  • Stop and say hello when you drive or walk by.

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Share the wealth with each other

When you take the time to network and get to know your neighbors, you learn about the strengths, services and advice different people have to offer. When you pull all those resources together, your neighborhood suddenly becomes one strength in and of itself.

You might find your neighbor’s daughter is an experienced babysitter, the guy three houses down is an insurance broker or the lady around the corner walks dogs for people while they are at work or on vacation. Instead of enlisting the services of strangers through broad social networks, you can network and confide in the people around you. Chances are, even if you don’t know the neighbor well, one of your other neighbors does and can vouch for his or her credibility.

How To Prepare Artichokes (VIDEOS)

Artichokes can seem pretty intimidating — they’re big, green, bulbous and prickly. If this keeps you from buying them fresh at the market, it shouldn’t. We’re here to show you the different ways to clean, trim and prepare artichokes for cooking — and then we’ll show you how to eat them.

The first step is learning how to clean the artichokes, which is probably the most involved part. All you have to do is remove the lower leaves, trim the spiky leaf tips with scissors, trim the stem with a knife, and you’re ready to cook (see here for a detailed step-by-step guide with photos). After that, it’s just about cooking them. Steaming and boiling/braising are the most typical methods — see how it’s done below. Artichokes can also be stuffed and baked, pan-fried or grilled.

Just in case you’re wondering, artichokes are actually flowers in the thistle family. They’ve been grown in the Mediterranean region for centuries. But in the United States they’ve only been around since the 1800s. So, we Americans are way behind — it’s about time we catch up and eat some more artichokes.

The Psychology of Fragrance Ad Casting

Who – New York Times columnist and co-author of Half the Sky: Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide.

Because – He has raised our consciousness about the struggle for gender equality and forced us to look at injustice around the world.

Photographed – By Brent McDonald in Yida refugee camp, in South Sudan, on February 16, 2012.

The Story

Nicholas Kristof likes to take his kids with him when he travels, but they don’t spend a lot of time at ­resorts. In 2008, he took his eldest son, Gregory, then 16, to South Sudan, and they sneaked without visas into two parts of northern Sudan—Blue Nile and Southern Kordofan, where the war is now raging. At 13, his daughter, ­Caroline, complained to him that her friends always went to the Caribbean for vacation. “So we went to the Caribbean—Haiti,” he says with a wry smile. “The cholera clinics.”

Kristof, 53, uses his twice-weekly New York Times column as a bully pulpit to advocate against one uncomfortable global injustice or another, from government abuses in the Sudan to the torture of circumcision that mothers ­inflict on their daughters across Africa and parts of Asia. He has spent the last ten years focusing on the oppression of women. Half the Sky, published in 2009, tells heart-wrenching, grisly stories of female exploitation, sex trafficking, slavery, and death. Not the typical stuff of Oprah’s Book Club, but after Winfrey devoted an entire show to it, sales of the book skyrocketed and it spent more than 60 weeks on the best-seller list. The book inspired the kind of grassroots activism that MoveOn.org would envy: It’s been discussed among prison populations, turned book groups from Connecticut to Oregon into fund-raisers for women’s organizations, and inspired a documentary series by the same name that will air on PBS in October. Today, Kristof continues to make us think about the world’s unsung victims and heroes. “We in the news business don’t cover reproductive health, sex trafficking, and maternal mortality very well,” says Kristof, who has made it his job to change that record. “People always ask me, Do you get depressed when reporting on poverty and global conflicts? I go back because it is hard to deal with. Gender inequality is not just a women’s issue, just as the Holocaust was not just a Jewish issue. It’s the moral issue of the twenty-first century.”